As a therapist, you sit there daily and open yourself up completely and fully for each client. You throw all of yourself into each and every session. You’re fully invested physically, mentally, and emotionally. It can be a very intimate experience, especially when working with ongoing clients. You love the bonds and relationships you’ve been able to build with your clients. You wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. That being said, you’re still feeling like you’re missing out. The emotions, connection, and intimacy you’re feeling in each session don’t really replace the true 2-way intimacy you would receive from a romantic partner. Here’s what to keep in mind as a therapist when one-way intimacy falls short.
One of the things that most humans strive for is a sense of belonging. We all just want to fit in, to be a part of something. A sense of belonging is essential for our survival. That’s why culture and social groups play such a huge role in the world we live in. Every culture has a set of cultural expectations or rules to abide by. Or you may have grown up on one country or area with its own culture, but your parents immigrated from another country with a very different approach, so you find yourself trying to fit into two cultures and not quite finding your way in either.
You want nothing more than to come home from work and crawl into bed. You’ve practically been dreaming about it since you woke up this morning. This week has felt long. You’re exhausted. And to be honest, you haven’t been sleeping that well. When you finally get home from work, you cook yourself dinner, shower, and start to get ready for bed. You run through your list of to-dos before bed. Teeth brushed. Check. Face washed. Check. Pajamas on. Check. Alarm set. Check. Lights off. Check. You crawl into bed, pull the covers up to your chin, and plug in your phone. You close your eyes and you wait until sleep takes over your body. But it doesn’t happen. Instead, your mind starts racing. You can’t stop thinking about events that took place during your day, from years ago, and even events that haven’t even occurred yet. Your heartbeat quickens. You’re antsy and restless. Instead of your eyes greeting your eyelids and wandering off to a peaceful sleep, you’re met with anxiety instead. What makes anxiety worse at night?
Lights and sounds tend to bother you more than the average person. One cup of coffee seems to have the ability to caffeinate you for a week while your friends drink multiple cups each day. Crowds and large gatherings are overwhelming for you. And even though you enjoy spending time with your friends, family, and loved ones, you feel exhausted afterward. You know that no two people in the world are exactly the same, but you’re curious as to what it is that’s making you feel so different or so sensitive compared to your loved ones. After some research, you narrowed it down to being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or having Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) hypersensitivity. Is an HSP the same as someone with ADHD hypersensitivity?
No matter the exact cause or when it happened, you experienced a traumatic event. Even though it’s in the past, it feels like it’s haunting you every single day. You go through the motions each day trying not to think about it, but something always brings you back to that moment. A voice, a smell, an outfit, the weather. The flashbacks, negative thoughts, and PTSD are becoming too much for you to handle on your own. But you don’t have to suffer like this forever. Recovery is possible. Here’s how to begin healing from sexual trauma.
Meditation has been practiced all around the world in many different cultures for centuries. This practice has been used in multiple religions, from Christianity to Islam, Judaism to Buddhism and Hinduism. Despite meditation having its beginnings as a religious practice, it is more commonly used today as a therapeutic technique to help aid the mind and body. So, let’s take a look at meditation, what it is, and how it can be helpful in treating mental health issues such as trauma.
You spend most of your days inside and alone. From the moment you wake up in the morning, your commute into work, sitting at your desk in your office, and back to your home each night (if you even go to an office away from your home!). Isolation is setting in.
Your sensitivity levels seem extreme compared to most of your friends and family. They’re not even limited to your thoughts, feelings, or emotions, either. You’re sensitive to lights and sounds. Caffeine and medications seem to hit you a lot harder. Even after hanging out with others, you feel exhausted.
Let’s face it. The past few years have been a whirlwind. Black Lives Matters protests. The global COVID-19 pandemic. War breaking out in Ukraine. The overturning of Roe v. Wade. And mass school and public shootings. These are only a few of the recent happenings in the last few years. What’s going to happen next? How are you supposed to cope?
Sensitivity is often seen as a weakness. But the reality of the matter is that highly sensitive can often mean highly powerful. Here are some of the benefits of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).